Struggle

Having a Bad Day? Let’s Change That…

Have you ever had one of those days, where everything seemed to go completely wrong?

I started writing this post last week, halfway through what seemed to be the worst day ever. I slept through my alarm… so my morning was off to a great start already. I tried my best to be semi-presentable and rushed to catch my bus. As I left my building, the bus was driving passed me and I ran to catch it… I managed to leap into the largest slush puddle, and got my socks, completely soaked. I missed the bus, and had to walk 15 minutes to the next stop. Finally when I got on my bus, I had the loudest person come sit next to me, blabbing away on their phone. I forgot my headphones back at home, which means it was a torturous commute… Eventually after a 1 hour bus ride, I finally get to work. Of course the first thing on my mind is… COFFEE. I grab a fresh cup, sit at my desk, and I’m sure you can already tell where I’m going with this… I dropped the entire cup on my desk and lap. I remember being stunned and walking away, hiding in the bathroom to let out a few tears. Why is everything going so wrong? Why is this happening to me?

The truth is, and some might disagree, but bad energy brings bad results. Yes, some things are completely out of our control, but what we do have control over is the way we choose to feel about the situation.

If I wasn’t so upset about missing my bus, having to walk, and the fact that my feet were wet and cold, I might not have been so annoyed with the person talking on the phone. And if I wasn’t so upset about all of that I might not have been on edge, and could have avoided spilling my coffee. Listen, I know what I’m saying is easier to accept after the fact. It’s hard to be positive when you’re standing in a cold puddle that’s formed in your boots, or drenched in burning hot coffee. I get it. But sometimes, if we just moved passed those problems, and looked around instead of sulking, we would see all the magic that surrounds us.

Just the other day I was upset because my cellphone died while I was commuting home. As I put my phone away I started to look at the people around me waiting at the bus stop. That’s when I noticed this elderly lady struggle to walk through the mounts of snow with her large grocery bags. These men in suits rushed passed her, I thought to myself “someone should help her… I should help her”… before I could take a step, this young man, maybe 16 years old at the most, stopped her and asked her if she needed help, he grabbed her bags and walked her to the bench inside the bus stop. My eyes filled with water. How lucky I was to witness this moment, how lucky I was that for once, I wasn’t too busy staring at my screen. 

All this to say… I made a list of things to remember, for the next time I accidentally jump in puddles without my rain boots. (Because jumping in puddles can actually be very therapeutic.) 

Accept the Situation

Oh, you spilled your coffee? That really sucks. Are you still alive? Thought so. Clean up, brush it off and make a new cup.

It Could be Worse

Your boss was tough on you today, and you get home all worked up… Move on, you might not always like your job, but at least you have a job.

Force Yourself to Smile

Are you mad? Oh no… You’re furious! You say there’s no way anything can turn your mood around? Really? Please Google “Funny Pugs” and tell me that you don’t feel a little bit better.

This Isn’t Permanent

OKAY FINE. Some days are just so impossible that you can’t move past them… At least find comfort in the fact that no matter how hard it gets, This too Shall Pass (my very wise little sister shared that quote with me).

Superhero Mode

You’re having a really shitty day. Guess what? You’re probably not the only one. Get out of your head, and make someone smile, do something nice. I guarantee it will change your perspective.

 

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Stop Thinking. Start Doing.

I’m sure my parents would agree that I’ve always been the kind of person that seems to be stuck in her own world. Whether it was prancing around as a child picking flowers for everyone during soccer games, sitting in my room drawing and writing stories, or riding around on my bike a on quest to solve mysteries. I’ve just always been a dreamer.

I’m lucky that my parents were able to bring me back to reality often enough that I grew up to be a fairly reasonable and capable adult.

My creative mind has always been a gift, but I’ve realized lately that if you don’t act on ideas often enough, you will end up overwhelmed by them. That’s been my biggest obstacle.

I’m constantly inspired by everything around me. The problem was, I wasn’t doing anything with this inspiration. I was too busy waiting for the next great idea or making excuses for myself.

I was drowning. I was overwhelmed by possibilities, and I wasn’t acting on any of them.

I don’t know what changed lately. I can’t thank any particular individual or moment, but I know that the irrefutable support I get from Nick, my family and my friends, lead to this turning point in my life where I decided to just do it. I started painting, writing and practicing yoga. All of these things have brought me an indescribable inner calm that I’ve been longing for.

I have a need to create. No matter which medium I choose, I need to let my creativity out or else I will drive myself, and everyone around me, absolutely crazy.

I’ve been too busy contemplating how profitable my use of time was before investing in an idea, but all along I was just wasting time debating everything instead of doing anything.

Yes, time is your most important resource, because it is one that isn’t renewable. However, sitting there thinking and letting time pass you by, instead of making something happen, well that is a waste of such an invaluable resource.

I’m sure this won’t be the last time I struggle, but all I know is I haven’t felt this good and this productive in a long time.

If you are reading this and you’ve been thinking about starting your own blog, or starting a YouTube channel, or you’ve been dreaming about creating a product – do it!

Make a small step… or a big one, towards that ultimate goal and you will see how much happiness that simple step will bring you. Each step you take will lead to the next one, and then the next, until you look behind you and realize how far you’ve climbed in such little time. I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but trust me, it’s better to have tried and failed, than to never have tried at all.

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The Day I Became a Better Painter

When I paint for myself it’s easy because I have no expectations to live up to. When I’m doing a commissioned painting, it’s harder, because reaching perfection is my only option, but it’s also a ridiculous target. Nothing is perfect – and that’s the beauty of it all. Especially in art. The broken lines and harsh paint strokes are what I admire in other artists’ artwork, but in my own it’s never good enough.

That inner struggle can be healthy for an artist because it can push you out of your comfort zone, and you might even explore techniques you wouldn’t have tried unless you were in that dire moment before you decide to set your canvas on fire.

I’ve been there. Ohhh so many times… I could have thrown fuel on my work and lit a match. But I’ve never gone through with it… Not yet at least.

Someone told me the other day that sometimes it has to get worse before it can get better. And that is the bottom line for my artwork.

Step 1: Okay, this will be great I can tell.
Step 2: Hmmm, it’s too dark
Step 3: Now it’s too light
Step 3: Ugh, what is this, what am I doing… This is the worst.
Step 4: Okay… pause, drink wine and breathe.
Step 5: Alright, I like this a bit better.
Step 6: This is taking forever
Step 7: Okay it’s WAY too light
Step 8: $&@! Now it’s too dark
Step 9: Wait… did I finish that whole bottle?!
Step 10: Alright, I think I’m actually finished.

This process can be in the span of a few hours, or sometimes a few days. I even have one piece that I’ve been working on for over a year.

It’s a process, and it takes time and patience. But I’m getting better at having fun with it and not being so hard on myself.

Get messy. Have fun. Be weird. Keep Painting.

That’s the only thing that truly matters.

My latest creation:

The Universe Loves a Believer

The Universe Loves a Believer